People are difficult right? I’ve thought that everyday of my life and i’m sure you have too.
Human beings are some kind of complicated. I know I am. I get moody, and sometimes I just don’t feel like anything or anyone.
Thing with me is, I have been blessed with a permanent smile on my face. I find laughter in everything(well almost), so I can easily mask my anger with laughter or a smile. Some people are just foul when they are in a bad mood.
Anyway, I’m really not here to talk about moods today, I’m talking about friendships and relationships in general. People can be a tad difficult to understand when it comes to relating with them. We can’t really be friends with everyone, but how do you know if you truelly are your friends friends? We live in a world where nothing is really ever clear. Where people are rarely ever genuine and some people are yet to grasp that. So you give one hundred percent to someone and they give you nothing and you call them a friend? That makes no sense at all. Being a christians means we have to love EVERYONE, it doesn’t mean you should let yourself be treated like a door mat. Used as the said “friends” feel like. It’s okay to care for people, I really care for people but honestly if a relationship only brings you down then is it really worth it?
Proverbs 27:6
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
You cannot really grow as a person, when your thoughts are always on hurt and pain caused by people. You cannot grow when the people you surround yourself with are stuck in a childish place.We all have genuine people, people that will be honest, people who help you improve, and lead you towards your goals. Even that one person that we can trust, and if not, we have prayer. Honestly, I believe that when it comes to those we interact closely with it’s better to be alone or with few people you trust than be among many and you can trust none of them.
I know a lot of people but I choose to love a lot of people from a far. This means, I will be there for them when they are in need but I don’t rely on them or have any expectation of them for my anything. In time, we all grow and figure out which friends fall where, but if you haven’t yet, you need to really pray and meditate on it lest they make you slip up or lose the way towards your dreams or destiny.
Life is too precious to waste on making relationships that were not meant to be close knit appear to be so. If you love all unconditionally and live a life focused on your purpose and God will not let you fall on the way side. He is after all our true love and friend.
Here are a few verses on friendship and what you can look for in your relationships.
Proverbs 18:24
There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 13:20
He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.
Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.
Galatians 6:2
Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ
Proverbs 27:9-10
Oil and perfume make the heart glad,
and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.
Do not forsake your friend and your father’s friend,
and do not go to your brother’s house in the day of your calamity.
Better is a neighbor who is near
than a brother who is far away.
Losing Self 