I’m happy for you….. but..

I’ve had a pretty normal day. Well as normal as a day at work can be, and I was in a pretty chill mood until I saw something online.

I was checking out one of my networks pages and just like that my mood changed. I started wondering what I have been doing with my life. Why I wasted so much time with the silly things when I could have done something meaningful with my time and random stuff like that. Now that I think about it, it’s funny. But a few minutes ago I was on the verge of spontaneously combusting from all the thoughts that were running through my mind.

I want all this stuff but really I don’t want them, I just think they look good from across the fence. Doesn’t everything? Honestly, being a human being is a hilarious ride when you really think about it because, I’m really happy for this girl. Her life is working out really fabulously for her and she is such a wonderful role model when it comes to a life dedicated to Christ. I don’t really want her life, or her career or any of that it’s just that every time I end up on her page I feel like a complete under achiever.

Why do we do that? Why do we let other peoples lives be a yard stick for our own? Why do we compare when we know no two of us are really alike? That we are build from completely different circumstances and have different goal and destinies planned ahead for us by God?

I really don’t get it at all, most confusing thing about is that it happens every single time I interact with her. She really inspires me and I love her and i’m very happy for her but for those two minutes after I check her websites or speak to her or whatever, I feel absolutely terrible about myself.

It’s ridiculously hilarious but I do that. I know I’m not alone and I know if you’re like me you feel absolutely horrible about it. But I’ve come to find a way to deal with it so it doesn’t last long or go negative.

1. Pray about it. Thank God for what you have and ask Him to bless whoever it is you are envious or beating yourself up about. Also ask that He lead you and direct you that you may achieve His purpose and will for your life.

2. Tell the person how proud you are of the things you admire about them. Don’t turn into an internal thing you battle with. Shout it out because as much as the person may be doing so well they may not feel like they are.

3. Focus on a project or whatever it is you feel you have neglected. Don’t waste all that energy on negative thoughts of times past, use it positively.

4. Pray.. 🙂 yes again!

This stuff  happen to the best of us, the problem comes in when you get negative and wish it for yourself or think negative thought about someone because of what they have or far they’ve gone in their lives. Just be happy for them, genuinely happy for them and it will pass.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
(1 Corinthians 13:4 ESV)

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4 thoughts on “I’m happy for you….. but..

  1. Don’t forget that we have an enemy always trying to take us out. Stand your ground! I think you’re feeling this way because the devil’s trying to convince you to feel condemnation that you’re not fulfilling God’s purpose for your life. It really goes back to what you said here “Also ask that He lead you and direct you that you may achieve His purpose and will for your life.” Do that and you’re good!

  2. James tells us that if you harbor bitter envy you are not to boast about it or deny the truth. He says that where there is envy and selfish ambition, there will be disorder and every evil practice. James 3:13 – 4:10

    You are taking the first step of confessing it and not feeding it. Pray and ask God to fill you so you are not feeling like you have no purpose or like you are behind. In earthly things it means nothing. You cannot take those things in which you envy over your friend with you when you depart this earth. Perhaps talking with her may help. But have a intimate talk and walk with Christ. It appears you want to change and have peace. Just ask Him in because He already knows the problem.
    I have experienced the pain of friends envying my God given gifts and it hurts because I truly love them . I am very kind hearted too, so I must stay before God. I use to say to God, you made me this way and people hate me for my TAGS (talents, abilities, gifts, and skills) that you have given me. Answer: It is about me pleasing God and not man. I will be praying for you to find God’s purpose for you.

    Shenine
    A Woman After God’s Own Heart ♥

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